Children are often the casualties of war – a war that is fought in their own living rooms, kitchens, bedrooms and, even, backyards. Children are scarred and wounded by the wars that go on between their parents who are often unsuccessfully attempting to figure out their marriage. It shouldn’t have to be this way. There are ways to work through marital issues without hurting the children.
Here are a few tips from “Putting Kids First” by Michael Oddenino:
Please work very hard not to break family bonds because you as the parents are struggling with marital issues. It bears repeating that children need family ties and stability in their lives. Marital issues, whether created by addiction or not, can often shatter those ties. Adults (parents) have a responsibility to make sure that the children feel safe and secure regardless of what is happening in the marriage.
Grow up parents and start to think about the children – regardless of their ages. It is time to stop the madness of the marriage taking center stage and recognize the burden marital stress places on the children. It is neither their fault nor their responsibility.
“In each family a story is playing itself out, and each family’s story embodies its hope and despair.” – Auguste Napier