If I Could Start OverMarch 24, 2018
What You Feel It GRIEFApril 4, 2020
of the most difficult areas human beings struggle with is “measuring up” to
their peers. We examine what others
have, what they are able to do and who they have in their lives. That comparing self to others is one of the
major reasons we struggle with self-esteem.
trouble is that when we enter the state of comparison-making, our seeing is
distorted. We become blind to our own value, while devaluing or dismissing the
real worth we have. Take some time to
complete the sentences below to determine what you consciously or
subconsciously are saying to yourself:
- “He or she is better than me because
- “I’ll never have what _______________he or she
- “I’m not as good at ___________________as he or
- “I’ve not had the opportunity to _________________that he or she had.”
- “I don’t look like __________________.”
we compare ourselves and conclude that we are less than, we feel depressed and
then want to isolate which causes us to feel even worse. Now is the time to commit to building our own
self-worth. Here are some simple ways to
do just that:
- Recognize that others’ confidence does not
diminish your own. All of us are able to
share our “highlight reels” and we each have one, or more.
- Realize that you are as capable of reaching
your goals as those people you are comparing yourself to…setting a goal, being
dedicated to reaching that goal and putting in the effort allows you to achieve.
- Most comparisons are done with only partial
information so if you find yourself comparing ask these questions: “Is all the
information available to me?” “What
about that persons’ success makes me a failure?” “How does this comparison make me either a
better person or feel better?”
Self-esteem can influence our life in many ways be it career, relationships and health. The pursuit of reaching your full potential starts with healthy self-esteem. Want to know more about building your esteem? CounselingConnectionslv.com and iLookin.com has the courses, challenges and resources to help you do just that. Join us now…
Owner/Therapist - MFT, LADC, LP - Meg obtained a Master of Science degree in Clinical Psychology and since college has been busy working in the behavioral health field. As a Nevada licensed marriage and family therapist, Nevada licensed alcohol and drug counselor, Minnesota licensed psychologist, and a Distance Credentialed Counselor, she has held various management positions in national corporations.