Consider the definition of dichotomy for a moment. The dictionary defines it as: a division into two especially mutually exclusive or contradictory groups or entities. Examples may include sunrise/sunset; tides coming in/tides going out; winter/summer; feast/famine; or even, drunk/sober.
How often do we marvel at these dichotomies in our lives? How often are we searching to find a place of balance only to be knocked off course by something unforeseen? Do we add conscious/unconscious to that dichotomy list?
At what point do people suffering with addictions begin to see the dichotomy in their lives? Families and friends are able to recognize this very early on in an addict. The confusion of one of our loved ones presenting as a “stranger” can be unbearable for many. Working to free yourself from the dichotomy of your addiction takes guts and determination. It takes examination of self and a willingness to look at some terribly dark sides of self. Are you up to it? Be careful to avoid “false dichotomies” as those extremes can pigeonhole you into places that are unjust. Take the time to analyze what this is in your life. You are so worth the examination and your loved ones are as well.
One of the benefits of recovery is that you no longer present as two (or more) separate selves! You fully understand your truths to the extent possible and loved ones can begin, once again, to feel safe knowing who they are dealing with at any given time. The choice is yours as it always has been…….
“Never permit a dichotomy to rule your life, a dichotomy in which you hate what you do so you can have pleasure in your spare time. Look for a situation in which your work will give you as much happiness as your spare time.” — Pablo Picasso